I HATE BELLY DANCING

WE WENT TO FIRDAUS’ WEDDING LAST SATURDAY EVENING WHICH HAPPENED TO BE AT THE VISTA CLUB TO EXPOSE AYMAN TO MORE MALAY CULTURE AND THERE JUST HAD TO HAVE A BELLY DANCER THERE!!! -HOW MALAY!

LUCKILY MY SINUS HAD COME BACK SO WE WERE THERE FOR JUST 5 MINUTES BUT THE DAMAGE HAD BEEN DONE

HE COULDN’T BARE TO MISS A MOVE AND I TOLD HIM -WOULDN’T IT BE BETTER IF YOU’RE OWN WIFE MOVED FOR YOU!

I DON’T KNOW WHY THEY (BELLY DANCERS) EVEN EXIST.

HOW IS BELLY DANCING SUPPOSE TO LIBERATE/EMPOWER WOMEN WHEN ITS ONLY ANOTHER MEANS TO PROSTITUTING US? HOW DOES ANY BELLY DANCER SEEM TO DO ANY JUSTICE TO HUMANITY MORE THAN INJUSTICE MORE RATHER!

ITS HARAM FOR ANY MAN TO EVEN TAKE A SECOND GLANCE A WOMEN, YET ALONE A BARELY NAKED ONE SO WHAT FREAKING HASANAH/BARAQAH/BLESSING TO YOU GET BY LOOKING AT ONE?

I KNOW THAT MOST ARAB WOMEN MOVE BETTER THAN EUROPEAN WOMEN (SORRY BEYONCE, JANET, J-LO) BUT ITS TOO PROVOCATIVE TO HAVE IN PUBLIC. SHOULD BE KEPT BEHIND CLOSED DOORS

ITS BOUND TO BREAK UP MARRIAGES -ESPECIALLY TO HAVE HUSBANDS TWIRLING AROUND THEM IN WEDDINGS/EVENTS THAN SAVE MARRIAGES

IN EGYPT -ITS AN ACCEPTED FORM OF DANCING. YOU MIGHT AS WELL BE NAKED. I JUST DON’T GET HOW THEY CAN BE RELIGIOUS IN SOME THINGS, OR MORE LIKE SEXIST, BUT FOR THESE THINGS THEY’RE OPEN MINDED

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~ by nursheikha on December 16, 2008.

28 Responses to “I HATE BELLY DANCING”

  1. I absolutely agree with you about this. I am a young Muslim woman in Canada, married to an Afghan man, and this sort of lewd dancing is culturally accepted at most social events, like weddings, engagement parties, etc. It strikes me as the most hypocritical thing in the world! My mother-in-law judges all the girls at these parties for their sleevless dresses and bare cleavage, in the same breath that she demands I go up and shake my ass with them. When I refuse, I get told I’m being rude. Last I checked, my duty was to Allah and to be true to myself, not please someone who has a completely warped sense of right and wrong…

  2. I totally agree with you !!! those women who are belly dancing should be used as whores or raped. RATTLE YOUR GODDAMN HEAD !!!

  3. I find that last comment especially chilling and dark. I love belly dancing! It is a beautiful art form on so many levels. It inspires and uplifts me and I’ve never ceased to be impressed by the many amazing and talented women (and men) who belly dance. I think if you learn to view it from a space of love, without judgment, you would appreciate it too.

  4. Much of the belly-dancing done at clubs and parties is based on sexual titillation, and that’s a shame. What we know as “belly dancing” encompasses an enormous range of dance styles and really orginated as dance by women for women. It can be sensual, joyous, sad, angry, empowering or frivilous, private or public.
    I would hope the person crying for women who dance to be brutalized reconsiders her words and was only speaking from momnetary anger. I’d had to think anyone carried so much hate within them.

  5. […] OMG! I am sooo angry! Please, tell me I’m having alucinations! I found this website and i’m chocked with what it says. Including the second coment on the responses area. So much ignorance! I HATE BELLY DANCING my hijab = my *diamond* crown […]

  6. I personally love bellydance. Your dislike of it is ok. Everyone is allowed a different opinion, that’s what makes us all unique. The world would be a boring place if we all agreed!

    The only thing that concerns me is it seems your dislike of it is mostly based on your husband’s reaction to it. Would you hate it as much if he didn’t watch? If you feel your husband is disrespecting you by watching, make sure he knows this. There is sex appeal everywhere and you can’t expect him to not notice. If you feel it will affect your marriage, then you may have more problems than bellydancing.

    I wish you the best!

  7. Thanks for dropping by ya’ll.

    The thing is (shock-horror :P) I can bellydance, its quite a work out! I have no problems in tapping into my sensuous inner self or expressing it, especially to my husband but its not the only way to turn your partner on. But because of my views of associating bellydancing to prostitution, I choose not to do it.

    Many people engage in an assortment of activities to feel liberated but I definitely don’t see belly-dancing as one of them. Maybe they get a kick of the voyeurism involved, or or s&m qualities of being subjected to a carnal slave or enslaving others to your sensuality but I don’t buy any of it…

    I do agree there is a lot of sex appeal everywhere you look and my hubby knows very well that he is disrespecting me by watching others do so, but it shows how animal-like our socity has become. Why must sex sell? Why can’t people sell things without sex? Why must women always be sacrificed, discounted in the name of commercialism? business?

  8. to the second woman who responded. Please reconsider what you said, rape should never be wished upon any woman. Find some love in your heart for other women, even if they are not perfect.

  9. I love bellydanceing too! But it is so very true that many women specially in Egypt who bellydance prostitute too! Gosh, I would never want to dance like they do, in such overly open costumes( yes one can be a conservative bellydancer…LOL) with most everything showing and dance among guests, ‘advertising’ OTHER services.

    However I LOVE bellydancing in a tasteful costume, and done on stage, or at a hafla!

    Please do not judge all belly dancers because some are prostitutes. It is like calling all women sinful, because some are prostitutes.

    I know that when I dance God is looking at me and smiling!!!

    Best of luck!!
    PS I would also be upset if my hubby was drooling over a trashy dancer, would tell him to show me more respect!! Thank goodness he has met only CLASSY and respectful dancers so far!!!

  10. Wow. Um…. First of all, I definitely thin there are deeper issues here than just bellydancers….

    But certainly there are dancers out there who may capitalize on the sex appeal thing, but not all bellydance is like this. In fact, there are so many dancers who manage to COVER their bodies, neck to foot, down to their wrists, everything is covered with layers and layers of fabric. And they don’t gyrate their hips or do ANYTHING lewd – it is a simple dance that women can do together, in private or in public, with no shame or sexual connotation. Like anything else, it depends on how an individual chooses to express this dance.

    I am a professional bellydancer, but I am by no means gorgeous or sexy, and I don’t do ANY dance moves I wouldn’t be willing to do in front of my parents or people who go to church, etc.

    So I’m sorry if your (brief) experience viewing bellydance was disappointing. Consider checking out some of the other styles – both traditional and modern.

  11. […] chocked with what it says. Including the second coment on the responses area. So much ignorance! I HATE BELLY DANCING my hijab = my *diamond* crown I was thinking about the levels of ignorance but not in a nasty way… I still cant believe […]

  12. I so much agree with the original post… how true. (and with first two comments, though I wouldn’t wish bad on all bellydancers, only on the whorish ones, who don’t even look like they’d be upset at being prostitutes or like if being raped would be a big deal for them).

    I find bellydancing lacks artistic expression and is always marginal and sexual: this is not to be done in public. Each time its done in public, it’s to seduce male audience, simply. Most bellydancer are very fat, that’s too, and wear skimpy outfits showing as much fat tissue as possible, that shakes like a jelly.
    Frankly, bellydancers dance like if they’re trying to get laid, speaking plainly. This is an insult to marriage or relationship to have your s/o watch them because they’re having sensual thoughts of the bellydancers. Of course, males think of sleeping with them while they watch them and check them out!

    Yes, i don’t feel bellydancing is much different from prostitution or striptease and is disgusting. Sadly, it proliferates now, as the world is becoming more corrupt and commercialized. Now every club girl claims to be a ‘bellydancer’ to appear more sexual and available to males. Yes, bellydancing is becoming more widespread as a part of the general trend of objectification of women! Making them into objects for male enjoyment, for sale. No, this is not “liberating” or “empowering”. How empowering it must feel.. to be seducing someone’s partner.

  13. PS to my comment above: I am a Western/European person, single and an atheist, and wonder how much bellydancing would be against someone truly religious and married… considering it’s offensive even for me.

  14. I am a belly dance instructor.
    You may hate your men stare at a belly dancer or another woman who wears a short skirt and a t-shirt. It is not the womens folt that your men doesn’t stop staring other women.
    Belly dance helped me to give birth naturally without any painkillers and I got my old shape back soon after. I stand up very beautifully because of belly dance. My body developped muscles and I feel wonderfull. I dont need to show off my figure. That is not the point. The point is how it makes you feel. One of my learner is 65 years old. One day she said “why didnt I knew about this Dans before” At her first attend to my class she tried to cover her breasts by making her back arched and her head was down. Very shy, didnt like to say much. Now walks like the world is hers. She and her husband are very happy. What else can I say!…
    ozlemgreen@hotmail.com

  15. […] is why I am utterly agog at the following post and even more so at the comments: I don’t know why they (belly dancers) even exist. How is […]

  16. Grow a brain-cell, baby. If a beautiful dancer is enough to “destroy a marriage” then it’s pretty obvious there wasn’t much chemistry between the husband and wife to start with. Belly dancing is a form of art; if your man likes to watch the dancers it means he appreciates the beauty of the human (female) body, and is awed by it, and attracted to it. Why should that be a bad thing? I’m not a bellydancer myself but I love to watch those fluid movements, I find it lovely that such grace can come from these perverted and degraded creatures I normally loathe (human beings, I mean).

    It’s sad that people can be so blinded by mere jealousy and go around making statements of hatred towards others, when what they really need is to sort out some personal issues.

    Really. Stop being such a stereotypical “woman”, open your mind a bit, lose the stereotypes and the hatred and, if you want respect from your husband, learn to give him the same: becoming jealous of him WATCHING a dancer is disrespectful to him, because you misunderstand his intentions (make it seem like he’s some kind of pervert or adulterer). Even if he WAS thinking about sex while looking at her, it doesn’t have anything to do with the dancer herself, as a human being with a mind and a personality and all those things that make us US – he was merely seeing the symbol of feminity and beauty.

    If you want to take it out on someone, blame it on the way we were built, on our instincts. The woman has no fault for being beautiful. Nor does the art form. Art is made to be beautiful, no matter if it uses paints or clay or movements of the human body to reach that degree of “perfection”. I myself am an Atheist but if you truly believe in your deity, do yourself and everyone else a favour and stop seeing HIS OWN CREATION as something ugly, disgusting, to be hidden away from view. I know that Eastern religions don’t see woman as anything but an incarnation of sin – but that’s a wrong view, woman should be respected and admired; not hidden away under layers and layers of cloth of movements that do NOT enable her to show her forms.

    And to the commenter who said she wished the dancers were raped: what goes around comes around, baby. Be careful what you wish to happen to others, cause it usually comes right back to you.

  17. so i guess to you pornography is a form of art as well?!? and wouldn’t be mind or even be offended if you saw your husband or boyfriend fuck other women in front of you too!…like animals right?…no shame or even self-respect!

    if the east don’t consider this as a celebrated form of art since its their dance afterall, not your version of waltz or jive,then what makes it right for you to interpret it as something else? if its such high art, why don’t you see the royals, wives of leaders, respectful people from these regions shaking their booties too in public?

    we know we’re already too rare and expensive, thats the reason why we don’t need to tell the whole world we are or else our value might go down. in your case, i guess you have no other avenues/alternatives to express your feminity, sensuality because until this century the way a woman should carry herself has been and still is dictated by men! the only way a women in the west can express their sensuality is pornography/exposing herself or alternatively, borrow a dance from another culture to liberate yourself so who’s the one being liberated here!

    maybe you don’t have enough brain cells to think this through!

  18. You’re too “rare and expensive”?!? And modest too. By all means, do NOT forget MODEST! Indeed, people who use stereotypes and prejudice and go by the law of “because that’s the way it has to be” really are rare. Thank goodness.

    A dance is a dance. It shows no actual nudity or sexual intercourse or anything – so why call it “pornography”?!? Have you ever SEEN porn? Well, if a dance shocked you, please NEVER try to catch a glimpse of actual pornography, you might get a heart-attack!

    And don’t you go around insulting my life-style. I wear T-shirts and jeans because I want to, not because men tell me to. I feel good in those clothes, I can be myself. Other women prefer to show off their cleavage – that’s what makes THEM tick. So what? You think you’re a better person because you act like a stuck-up mother-in-law? Wrong guess, honey. I don’t think of myself as “a woman”. I’m a “human being”. As are my mother and my father and my brother. I don’t build up silly barriers in my mind. And because of that, I can appreciate the beauty of another woman’s body WITHOUT going yellow with jealousy. If my fiancee looked at a woman and got a boner I’d be amused and prolly just tease him a bit. If he slept with her I’d kick him out of the house – but did I comment on your husband SLEEPING with the dancer?!?! No! I commented on him LOOKING at her. Don’t dramatize, don’t give things a bigger importance than they really have.

    I stick to what I said: there’s nothing to be hidden in the human body, especially the female body. It has been captured in paintings and photographs by masters, it has been described in poetry and prose and music – it’s a beautiful part of nature. No matter how many stupid tags such as “pornography” / “godlessness” / “sinful” you try to attach to NATURE, there will always be more open-minded people around who will be glad to see the truth.

    You’re obviously too indoctrinated to understand this; don’t speak to me of brain cells when the only basis you have for hating something is that you “feel” it’s insulting to you.

    P.S. I like waltz and jive just as well, what made you think I wouldn’t?

  19. and what’s wrong if you think you don’t have to dress or be like a skanky whore to feel good/confident about yourself as well?…-when you feel that fantastic inside, does it matter what anybody else thinks? and it hurts doesn’t it when the same labels, stereotypes, lame assumptions you use on people gets used on you! also since when did all of porn involve complete nudity? also a bellydance is not just a “dance”/fore pure entertainment, there are deeper elements involved just like the kuchipudi or bon odori. so basically, if you don’t have the ability to think deeper and see things more than what they really are, then i suggest you keep your comments to yourself!

  20. Oh yes, I’m a soulless stupid little girl who can never fathom the depth of your mind; I apologize for stepping on your toes and saying it exactly as I think it is. I did NOT use any stereotypes in my first post, au contraire – I pointed out that YOU stereotyped both the dancers and yourself.

    Pointless discussion anyway, since neither of us is willing to give up.

  21. jesus christ your such a prude :p

  22. Belly dance has given so many women of all ages, shapes and sizes confidence about being a woman. Their posture improves dramatically as they are taught not to be ashamed of their bodies anymore. I’ve seen countless women who are afraid to merely stand up straight because they fear that they will be deemed unholy or something. They aren’t even conscious of it. Women have been taught that their bodies are sinful and it shows in how they carry themselves.

    Belly dancing when performed with skill and grace much like in the classic Egyptian tradition is a very beautiful art form like ballet. Did you know that in some middle eastern countries that ballet is seen as a very vulgar dance? Why? Because the women are so thin like undeveloped little girls and dancing around doing the splits with their legs wide apart!

    A good belly dancer is not a stripper nor a porn star, though those untrained might unfortunately dance that way. Men are going to look at women, whether they are polynesian hula dancers, showgirls, salsa dancers or you name it. I’ve got a friend whose dad ogles the women on Dancing with the Stars. It doesn’t make me happy that his own wife is siting there in a wheelchair with her morphine pump, so I understand your frustration.

    I was taught that it is considered taboo to shake your boobs in anyone’s face. It’s a SHOULDER shimmy done at an angle away, though in Turkish style the move can be seen as a little more grandiose. There are other moves that are considered in bad taste, but you will still see them performed depending on the dancer and the style.

    One of my respected teachers performed a class act family show with her dancers for years at a certain Persian restaurant. She was let go, told she was too old and replaced by younger less experienced dancers who were literally dancing on the chairs. That’s what the clientele wanted she was told.

    Don’t forget that there are all styles of belly dance both within the traditional and non-traditional arenas. Women should neither be repressed or exploited, but find a simple balance. Class and good taste are not forgotten. Sorry your experience was a bad one.

  23. Your original post is so full of contempt and judgement, let me remind you, only God is allowed to judge. I will not attempt a religious argument, as it would be pointless. But your disrespect of female-based religions is obvious, and apparently anybody’s else’s philosophy. This is a very low-consciousness you have. When I bellydance I invoke the Goddess Herself, and she loves women, you, too, even though you hate Her.

    Why don’t you realize that women are forced into prostitution because of the economic situation that MEN have put them in. Many dancers in poorer countries turn to prostitution as this is the best way to make money for their families back home. Is it their fault? Or should they take a low-paying job and pray that God will help them, when their babies are starving?? Come on.

    The ones who do make a lot of money are very smart. Like me. I am not a stripper or a prostitute, although there is nothing wrong with their job, they serve a purpose even if you disagree. It is just not MY job. I am a magic fairy sprinkling fairy dust on people to make them drop their worries for just a minute and SMILE. Something that you should do, smile when you see a bellydancer, and stop your arguing mind for just a second and ENJOY. Women are beautiful, and bellydancers are taking over the planet with our LOVE, not your HATE.

    Perhaps there are some underlying issues with your husband that you are angry about, but don’t take it out on us, you need to work that out with your husband.

    God bless you

    Katya xoxo

  24. I love belly dancing but I only do it for one person I’m pretty sure that they prepared the girl in the art to seduce there future husbands and the future husbands couldn’t see there face until there were wed! Then on there honeymoon she would dance and u know what else! But back then there dad and mom I think chose there future spouse! So that sucked! U really need to look into history idiots! be more opened minded quit being negative and learn before u judge! And Tell your man u don’t like it or the you won’t communicate and your marriage will die! When you tell a guy how u feel they will understand if they love u! If not there an dumbass! Also try learning it and telling him the closest thing he’ll see in belly dancing is u! 😉

  25. There are many bellydancers who see this dance as an art of expression just like ballet. They adopt it for that reason, not for sexual reasons to attract a man or worse for prostitution. It is therefore dangerous to catagorize any art form in absolutes. Of course some artists paint nudes to sell for carnal tastes. Others for the sheer beauty – purely artistic imspiration so we should not lump the great masters who did paint nudes in with those that were selling sex.
    Bellydance has suffered as an art because of preconceptions AND because there are some dancers who do push the sexual aspects – especially in the Middle East where the audiences are mainly men and tourists and the income is tips. Bellydancers outside the Middle East have fought these preconceptions and brought greater respect to the dance because of it. I promote a show touring the US at the moment – the Bellydance Superstars – performing in the same venues as the ballet, Riverdance and other “respectable” shows so I know the struggle this art form has faced. We do not sell sex but we have no problem with sensuality and the sheer beauty of a woman moving well to great music. Our audiences are more women than men and many are bellydancers so respect for the art of bellydance as an art is super important as we help to set the impression of what bellydance is to the broader mainstream that now comes to our shows.
    I would point out that at our shows in Morocco we had ladies come up to thank us for doing what we were doing precicesly BECAUSE we projected feminine beauty and NOT sex and showed that that was possible. All too often femininity and sex are equated as the same thing. A lady CAN dance and be beautiful without thrusting her sexuality in your face and bellydance, well done certainly proves that. For the lady that “hates” bellydance I suggest you see bellydance in other contexts before offering a universal judgement – in fact I invite her to see the Bellydance Superstars on tour now (check dates at http://www.bellydancesuperstars.com)and THEN offer an opinion. two free tickets are waiting for her at assistant@milescopeland.net.

  26. There is nothing to be ashamed of belly dancing. Its a beautiful art which unites our soul and body. It is not only confined to amusing males but is meant for whole family. Some rules should be followed. So, there are some boundaries that should be drawn.

  27. Belly dance is an amazing art which unites soul and body. It is not at all confined to amusing male’s dick but is meant for whole family. There is nothing to be ashamed of such a wonderful art. Every dancer isn’t a slut. But there are some ethical boundaries regarding vulgarity and costumes which one should not exceed. Moreover, in todays world, wherever u see u would find girls in skimpy dresses. So, even if belly dancers perform in skimpy clothes, we must not raise much of objections. They r no different.

  28. That makes no sense! you think its okay for him to get a boner but not sleep with her!!! So he gets ALL the pleasure and arousing but cant get rid of it? Looking is just as bad or worse than sex with her. Besides, hes either gna jack off to her, think of her during sex with you, or stay aroused untill he gets with her. Those three actions are the SAME mentally. Sex is something special, no point in marriage if u can get pleasure from others. belly dancing isnt wrong, belly dancing infront of strange or other womens men is wrong and sick. A tempted person looses their love and respect for their spouse when they get aroused by others, they crave the other person and loose the craving for their spouse. I study psychology! So if u prance around creating boners and letting ur man have illigetimate boners, you are creating an affair in his mind, if it actually happens or not doesnt matter. The damage is done. and gettting mad at him for releasing the damage by sleeping with her is stupid. Please respect the relationships that thrive on faithfulness and loyalty. Please cover your bodies and dont tempt men, I wont get into it, but there is not ONE good thing that comes about arousing a man thats not yours. And soooo many horrible results. Men are easily aroused and distracted, its our responsibility to protect them.

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