name-calling: gazma better than the kalimah? esp. for kids?


who you looking at wise guy!

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gazma in arabic means the bottom of my shoe, something demeaning (along the lines of) you worthless idiot in english…why else did that iraqi journalist threw his shoes to former president george bush???

in my hubby’s circle -they seem to take such name-calling quite casually…for example they seem to laugh when mai -ayman’s brother’s 3 yr old daughter swears profanities to his mum (like binte kalb which means you daughter of a bitch). in the malay world you get excommunicated if ever one of your kids ever steep that nasty. it just reflects severe bad parenting, that you don’t know how to teach your kids any respect or manners…

last night was annoyed with ayman casually calling baasil such insults for what did this kid do to deserve this…and this was from the moment he was born…

told him wouldn’t it be better if baasil heard such words like la ilaaha illallah or subhanallah…you gorgeous…then you shoe, son of a bitch…

kids pick up things really easily…

even if he’s only 2 weeks old…if i could, i’d have swearing, insults, put-downs banned in this household…

why punish your kid for talking shit to you when you were the one talking shit to him in the first place…you taught him this!

ayman simply did not get it and said he’s free to do whatever he likes…

replied -is the dictionary so limited to just gazma and bin kalb? that there’s nothing better to describe something…

that if he dies, he’s going to say gazma more than la ilaaha illallah…

another was the issue of money…

still don’t feel like he’s looking after me…

because i was working and now might apply for some payments from the government because it will be surviving on a single income that this should be enough for me…so where does he looking after his family come into consideration???…especially when you’re the one taking care of everything…

so much for honouring your vows and promise to Allah…

sometimes i just feel like packing my things and leave ayman and my dysfunctional family because they really have no minds or hearts…

just feel like i’m on my own with bringing up baasil…

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~ by nursheikha on April 13, 2009.

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