i’m in love with a sociopath…another joey buttafuoco

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was watching the view whils having brunch and one of their guests was mary jo buttafuoco…


the lady who got shot by her husband’s teenage lover…and she was finally telling her story 17 years later…

anyways in the interview she mentions that her husband was a “sociopath”…and my still wobbly in-active mind after childbirth and out of the workforce asked to herself -“whats that???”…

i’d heard of the word before but couldn’t remember the associations with it…until mary jo described her husband’s traits…and then the light bulb flashed -shit! thats ayman too!!!

can understand why it was difficult for her to leave him after being nearly paralysed, left for dead because of these traists (she apparently 7 years)

anyways for those who don’t know, these are what are the traits of a sociopath…which was what ayman was…


*Glibness and Superficial Charm

*Manipulative and Conning
They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims.

*Grandiose Sense of Self
Feels entitled to certain things as “their right.”

*Pathological Lying
Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests.

*Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.

*Shallow Emotions
When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.

*Incapacity for Love

*Need for Stimulation
Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal. Promiscuity and gambling are common.

*Callousness/Lack of Empathy
Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others’ feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them.

*Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others.

*Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet “gets by” by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.

Not concerned about wrecking others’ lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.

*Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
Promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts.

*Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future, poor work ethic but exploits others effectively.

*Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life story readily.

Other Related Qualities:

Contemptuous of those who seek to understand them
Does not perceive that anything is wrong with them
Only rarely in difficulty with the law, but seeks out situations where their tyrannical behavior will be tolerated, condoned, or admired
Conventional appearance
Goal of enslavement of their victim(s)
Exercises despotic control over every aspect of the victim’s life
Has an emotional need to justify their crimes and therefore needs their victim’s affirmation (respect, gratitude and love)
Ultimate goal is the creation of a willing victim
Incapable of real human attachment to another
Unable to feel remorse or guilt
Extreme narcissism and grandiose
May state readily that their goal is to rule the world

(The above traits are based on the psychopathy checklists of H. Cleckley and R. Hare.)

also…i don’t know if other fathers do this but whenever baz has a nappy change and i leave the two alone, i always come back seeing ayman pulling baz’s penis…trying to make the kid hard…is that normal?

anyways, it kinda made me feel awkward so from then on i made sure me or mum did the nappy changing and bathing -NO MALES.


~ by nursheikha on July 28, 2009.

One Response to “i’m in love with a sociopath…another joey buttafuoco”

  1. you need to get far away from ayman and call the police it is not normal at all!!!!

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