WHITE RIBBON DAY – STOP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

WHITE RIBBON DAY NOV25

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when i was watching a segment about paulini describing her experience of domestic violence on 9am with david and kim, being the spokesperson for white ribbon day -international day of elimination of violence against women, i was shocked…that even those in the spotlight encounter this behind closed doors as well…that i was not alone…the same when i watched rihanna first speaking out about the incident with chris brown

http://www.whiteribbonday.org.au/Resources-49.aspx

http://au.lifestyle.yahoo.com/b/sunrise/35311/paulinis-harrowing-account-of-abuse-now-in-song

yay i celebrated pink ribbon day because i knew a few people close to me were affected by it -was quite a wake up call when my mate ana just a year older than me (26 at that time) had to get a lump removed from her breast…alhamdulillah it wasn’t cancerous …but this white ribbon day thing really hits home…

even though i can’t say i have conceded victory over it because i’m still technically married to ayman but its something that not just women but the entire community need to address, come to terms and help with, especially by other men…

in so many hadiths i read that its haram to treat women unjustly, to even harm or even hit her -especially on her face but what do you normally see on most middle-eastern/muslim-oriented movies, soapies, even real life -the women being bashed like she’s a rag doll…

it took me calling the police twice for ayman to understand that its just not right to bully, harm me…i wonder what it would take for all others who live in societies where hitting women is just a norm…

there should be more songs, movies, literature condoning such acts of violence…

http://www.nydailynews.com/gossip/2009/03/08/2009-03-08_oprah_winfrey_has_a_warning_for_rihanna_.html#ixzz0XmHWMxjc

cheating spouses on facebook

Sourcebook

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its bad enough that you had to meet your spouse online and it went pear-shaped, waiting now a definite -this is it moment to finalise your separation from him…its worse when he tries to sugar you up, make you think maybe things can get better when behind your back he’s up to no good…

i have this thing against all these social networking websites…like facebook for one…i could use it to keep in touch with my mates at work, from uni and high school -all good pure intentions of course but its not so great when you find out your estranged husband has kept one for himself too and he happened to have more of chicks mostly of whom he had previously tried to hook up with in previous sites lie hi5 but of which he claims they had automatically accepted him all because he signed up to facebook…

i just agree with this news article of how cheating husbands should be whipped for breaking up families…

http://au.news.yahoo.com/a/-/odd/6371936/cheating-husbands-should-be-whipped/

http://news.theage.com.au/breaking-news-national/infidelity-rife-in-cybersex-world-study-20090924-g3qd.html

but even if you whip someone as notorious of ayman, would it even sink in especially when they don’t know what it means to be loyal, faithful, monogamous…especially if they lived in muslim societies that promotes male whores like in egypt -to think they can hook up with as many women as they like and after doing the haram/shit -they try to make it islamic/halal…and whats ironic is, ayman forgets how his older half siblings resent his very own existence, how much shit they’ve stirred his mum and other siblings from his mum for being offsprings of his dad’s 2nd wife…

so i’ve asked ayman since he shamelessly think there’s nothing wrong in having girlfriends on the side whilst he’s still married, i’ve asked him to bring witnesses to note the islamic talaq…

http://www.islamology.com/Overview/Women/islam&Divorce.htm

i know ayman has a right to see his kid but i prefer baz not know a pathetic example like him as a male role model to live up to…or else he’ll grow up not knowing what a conscience is…

Lasagna with Sambal Tumis paste (malaysian twist)

My Mother’s Lasagna

Originally uploaded by creampuffsinvenice

i don’t know about everyone but i normally can’t stand the tarty-ness of the tomato sauce in lasagna’s. just always wished it had more ummph -like spice perhaps, so yesterday replaced the usual tomato sauce with sambal tumis (http://www.asianfoodathome.com/products.php?product=Brahim’s-Sambal-Tumis-Sauce) and it worked!

especially if you went along with this first recipe:

http://mylasagnarecipe.com/

this story made my day:khadijah williams on oprah

khadijah williams

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http://www.vanityfair.com/online/politics/2009/07/president-obamas-no-excuses-message-resonates-with-khadijah-williams.html

http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-harvard20-2009jun20,0,1882109.story

http://www.khadijahwilliams.com/KW/About.html

i’m suppose to study but have been postponing it due to being burdened by being the taxing the-next-in-line-after-mum in looking after the house affairs and peoples whilst she’s away…and after watching this segment on oprah, kinda made me feel bad that i haven’t gone ’round to it instead i should be as strong and persevering as khadijah…not caveing in to such manageable pressures especially when you compare it to what she had been through…(who was homeless but is now in harvard -imagine that!)

its made me re-evaluate, more so re-ignite my dreams

what blew me away completely was her response to her uni application:

http://www.oprah.com/article/oprahshow/20090915-tows-khadijah-college-essay

Other than through classes in school, in what areas (nonacademic or academic) have you acquired knowledge or skills? How?

…”I have not prepared for college or life in the traditional manner. For almost all of my life, I have never had a place to call home. I have questioned why I have to struggle so hard to succeed while others do not have to question whether they will go to college. However, there is one thing I have never questioned: my education. My life and circumstances have given me life skills, that in turn, have helped make me into the driven and passionate student I am today.

I have lived in many types of shelters and motels throughout my life, and as a result, I have learned to be flexible, independent, resourceful, and driven in achieving my goals. Whenever I am hungry, I know where to find food. Whenever I am depressed and stressed, I know exactly where to go to calm down. I tune out the prostitutes who try to sway me towards their way of thinking and ignore the drug addict’s plea to try just one drug. I have learned how to tune out the patronizing pimp that snorts, “You ain’t college bound. You live in Skid Row!” I have learned not to show fear when I am walking home late at night, and I have learned how to remain alive with almost no money. By moving around and experiencing so much, I have learned to adapt to many different situations, go after and accomplish my goals, and most importantly, thrive. “

check the link for more of her answer…

there was no way i could have written something like that for my uni applications…

here are my DREAMS alone anyways:

*complete my accounting diploma which i’m currently studying again
*go back to uni and complete my arts degree (politics and history). eventually get my doctorate/specialise in this. head research department/organisation in this and influence the world
*capture and travel all around the world (with my camera)
*better/deepen my relationship with Allah and have all aspects in my life insync with Him
*buy my own house
*be the best person/mum in the world
*be on top of my game in life and enjoy every moment of it, not be saddened too much with how it unravels itself

missed an important doco coz of the crocodile dundee

Waterboard the Trial

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if the whole australian public had satellite dishes at the back of their backyards instead of foxtel boxes, i wonder how less racist and ignorant and more accepting they would be…

just watched the last bits of an interesting doco on sbs which has left me quite distressed about the laws we have in this country (of which details i’m not allowed to discuss in this blog)…

http://www.sbs.com.au/schedule/SBSONE/2009-11-17/SBS%20Sydney

and i thought there wasn’t anything interesting on tonight! was watching the best of the paul hogan show…darn it!!!

had quite an ear bleeding when i was glimpsing the view today relating to the current terrorism trials there

wish there were more whoopi goldberg’s in this world

more attentive father-figure

kid & grandpa

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when my nephews came over last saturday to be minded over, my dad thought it would be just the usual -buy chips, strawberries and chocolates to treat the kids while either my younger sisters or i looked after them and he would just disappear off -most probably to the masjid to care for his precious bananas there, or remain invisible -either by sleeping through or just zone out and watch the telly and not interact with his grandkids who he was’also happen to be in the same room as he was…

it just amazes me…its bad enough that he wasn’t as involved in our lives when we were young, but to also do the same with his grandkids? c’mon!!! and this is the man who’s dying to see his daughters be married off yet when they are married, not only does he not care what goes on, he doesn’t even care about the grandkids as well? or maybe people just do what they know because they themselves didn’t get enough love and care when he was younger…but i would’nt do to baz what my parents did to me…

anyways, because my sisters went out it was just me and dad…with the 2 babies screaming their lungs out for a feed someone had to take care of the two older boys…i had to cook as well…poor ridwan kept coming to me to play with him whilst i chopped the vegies for the stir-fry and even though they didn’t said it directly, every time i told them to play with grandpa -they were hesitant and still insisting that i would instead…he’s 6 years old and even then he’s not use to hanging out with his grandpa…so sad…it wasn’t until i got the wii out because ridwan was nagging to do cycling on the wii resort that the boys finally started to get some input, feedback from grandpa -at least in terms of how to play…i think grandpa was also surprised that his grandkids would be so technologically advanced than he was…

its sad enough that i lost my childhood because of lack of input from my parents, i couldn’t bare to see my nephews and son miss out as well with having a grandfather around, especially when i didn’t have any grandparents around me…

crazy nephews

Naughty @ 100% …

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my sister and co had to move out from their thornlie rented home because it had just been bought by another so had to babysit the kids -ridwan (5), rayhan (3), muhammad (1) and musa (2 weeks old) for a few days this week and i think after babysitting them -i’m happy with just one…alhamdulillah!!!

baz’s countless toys, storybooks, even my own wii , cooking wasn’t enough to tame these kids especially rayhan…

the living room, kitchen, bedrooms looked unrecognisable with pillows, food scraps, books, pens, toys everywhere…and i normally like things clean, in order, organised…

have to confess something…i’m normally not for hitting kids to disciplining them…would prefer pysching them out before ever using the hand but had lost my patience with rayhan when he ran onto the ever-busy street yesterday after not listening to dad to come inside…my heart just stopped and prayed no cars was to enter the road when rayhan kept going further and further onto the even more busier street the more i called him to come inside until i literally shouted at him to stop of which he did – i think he did so because he hadnt heard anyone shout to him as stern as i did yesterday afternoon. think the whole mirrabooka heard me. when he did hget near i couldn’t help but give him a good whack on the hand for not listening and disobeying…had reported this to his dad and when he came to pick them up, rayhan got another whacking again…

i don’t know how mum raised us 7 kids…but i know can remember was never as chaotic and feral as they were because mum was so strict…or am i slowly becoming like my mum?

polycystic ovarian syndrome-no period

Stomach and Band Model

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http://www.bellybelly.com.au/articles/conception/poly-cystic-ovarian-syndrome

http://www.medicinenet.com/polycystic_ovary/article.htm

met the doc today to know of my results of my blood tests that i took a week ago and…

he told me the reason why its 50+ days since i last had my period was because i had the polycystic ovarian syndrome flare up again…

i had it before when i was trying to get pregnant the first time…the egyptian doc gave me pills to i make me somehow lose weight and voila! had 8 eggs waiting to be mini-me’s but it was only a week or so after i found i was pregnant with triplets, i lost them…

now their back to haunt me again, i guess as a result of my weight gain…and the only way to get things back to norm is for me to lose weight DRASTICLY! -ie lap banding…

http://www.lapobesitysurgery.com.au/lapband.html
http://www.obesitysurgery.net.au/who-qualifies.html

urghhhh i hate the idea of hospitals, surgery rooms and now this…but i guess its time to shrink to be healthy…

pttep australia oil spill

Montara Oil Spill – Virginia for Scale

Originally uploaded by SkyTruth

been busy this week bcoz baz has got the snuffles…its been hot especially inside the house so left the bedroom window open at night to cool off…unfortunately it was a way bit too chilly for my little munchkin to take so he’s been sniffing…but wanted to bring this up…

http://www.watoday.com.au/environment/cause-of-wa-oil-spill-revealed-20091109-i59k.html

http://english.aljazeera.net/news/asia-pacific/2009/11/200911393754269341.html

i’m not an extreme tree hugger but i do love my trees, beaches…-they’re what keep me partially sane…but i think this company thai-owned pttep australia, should be banned from ever operating inside australian shores, after spilling millions of litres of oil into the timor sea…it took 10 weeks!!! to stop it from spilling and that was before it blew up…what disgusts me even more is that even the govenment did jack all about this environmental disaster…

did it ever occur to them that it would affect our fishing, tourism industry if all they cared about was the big bucks…and this part of the country were known for its endless prestine, beautiful beaches and its unique wildlife…

not only should they pay up for the clean up, cover the cost of restoring the place back to it was, never step foot in australian shores again…i think the australian government should step up and tighten laws relating to companies screwing up our environment or people like this one…

black eyed peas rock!!! (oprah)

Oprah Show_18

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watched this last week and i just had to put this up

loved how everyone in the crowd was insync

my bro saw them in concert last month and he said they rocked!!!

now he’s looking after britney backstage because he works at burswood…

just bizarre how whenever an “entertaner” comes down under like britney, even when the good ole new kids on the block were here – the same ban lip synching topic always pops up